How
Five reasons why a child with a developmental advantage is sometimes not motivated and five ways to deal with it.
1. Perfectionism
Many gifted children are paralyzed, as it were, by fear of failure. They prefer a task rather than taking the risk of doing it wrong. Even very young children are already learning this. And it leads to frustrating conflicts. A child is then convinced that it does not work.
What to do? Continue learning!
Here, the "growth mindset" theory helps tremendously. After all, this embraces the idea that mistakes bring you further and that struggle and challenge is the path to success. So help a child to develop perseverance, tell about mistakes that worked out fine. Tell stories about historical figures that went on despite the stupid things they did. Or talk about favorite heroes from films that were successful because of their missteps. If you can make a child see the power of failure (making mistakes), it will be able to free itself from perfection in the long run of the "chains".
2. Temperament
Hyppocrates was already talking about the four temperaments, four personality traits that influence one's passions and behaviors: sanguine (happy-tidy), choleric (stubborn and independent), melancholic (sensitive and analytical) and phlegmatic (compliant, avoiding conflict). In most people, multiple temperaments and often one do not play well.
It goes without saying that some temperaments conflict with motivation and the completion of tasks. Children with a sanguine temperament often do not feel like tasks they do not like, cholerists insist that they are told exactly what they are doing first, and phlegmatists sometimes remain trapped in the lethargy of what they always do.
What to do? Ownership!
Children invest more in tasks they choose themselves. So find out which activities inspire a child. Of course, that has a lot to do with the intelligences or interests that a child has (see multiple intelligences of Gardner).
But of course there is also a downside: the big "ghost image" of real life. The children also need to borrow with tasks that they find less inspiring. But if you let children do tasks that they like first, they will probably learn to appreciate "effort" for tasks. When they get older, they probably understand that even less fun can make them happy.
3. Too focused
Some children are so absorbed in play, in a book, in games on the tablet, in drawings, and so on that they forget the world around them.
The "ordinary" things do not fascinate (anymore). To clean up? Ho, but. That task that still has to be finished? Soon.
What to do? Short, clear and preferably visual guidelines.
A "smart" brain is working at full speed with the information it receives. It works like "Pokon". But that means that laundry lists with tasks and assignments work badly for these children with this brain. To avoid overload and avoidance behavior it is best to give these children specific and clear guidelines, one by one and preferably in visual form.
4. Asynchronous development.
We have already written about this in the building block for very young children.
Because children with a developmental advantage often operate from (deep) understanding and often form precocious personalities, they sometimes seem a lot older than they are. We have written about the different "ages" in one person. This means that some apsects of their development are much further and others are very far behind. Children who read "Lord of the Rings" but can not yet tie their laces. Sometimes the easiest tasks seem unachievable for these children.
How to deal with this? Use in the group with the child practice!
Pedagogical staff and group 1 teachers, according to the pedagogue Harry Wong, would do well to practice using the child in the group or class in the first days of the group. That really helps children to learn new behavior and gives it confidence. Take apart the steps that come with a task and take the time to show a child how to do it. Even something as simple as packing a backpack is worth practicing, especially if children fall behind with executive or organizational skills.
5. Double special.
There are quite a few children with a developmental advantage that we call "double special": cognitive lead alongside a developmental disorder or learning disability, such as a disorder in the autism spectrum, AD (H) D, or dyslexia. Not only do these "qualities" affect the learning ability of children, but they also have an impact on the executive functions.
What to do? Develop strategies and mechanisms to deal with them (coping).
These coping mechanisms are of course different for every child with such a "quality". It must be coordinated with experts and especially parents (the triangle teacher - child - parent (s)) which works in which situation. Structure, space for physical effort, attention to good communication. What is important, however, is that a pedagogical employee or teacher is aware that children have this double peculiarity and that it is not always clear what "causes" something: the cognitive advantage or the attention or developmental disorder.
Partly based on:
https://www.notsoformulaic.com/gifted-kids-arent-motivated-cope/